The Swingers Board - View Single Post - How to get a husband who wants to swinging to stop trying to convince the wife?

ricndi032903 · 10-11-2003, 09:28 PM

ok I see all over the place how men are asking, How do I get my wife "into" this, or how to "talk" her into this, Or how anyway you want to slice it, otherwise get her to do something she apparently doesn't want to begin with......

So here is my question

How do you get a husband who is obsessed with this lifestyle to give it up, to drop the crap and live a normal life?

How do you "talk" him into accepting that his wife wants only him? And that it's normal to want only your wife? That in some marriages or relationships, one person has a right to a faithful marriage, cause I am sorry and don't want to offend anyone,
but the moment you touch another person you ARE taking something away from your mate, time and touches otherwise that could and should be spent with your mate, and it doesn't much matter whether your mate is in the room, any touch that is spent on another is taking away from the one that has the right to be the one being touched.

If some of these men would consider the fall out before sugjesting and then pushing it with double talk, exp; I don't want another woman, but the thought of someone different is exciting, then to me, he's really saying that I don't excite him and that he does want the other woman,

So why don't some of the wifes that have been forced , manulipated or whatever stand up and say hell no, I would really like to know how many swinging wives are doing this to keep their husbands happy at their own expence. and why can't the men accept the wife's decision to have a normal marriage, why do they have to push and behave so badly when told no? cause to me the moment you step away from your SO you step away period.

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ricndi032903 Active Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 30 Location: PA Status: Couple	How to get a husband who wants to swinging to stop trying to convince the wife? ok I see all over the place how men are asking, How do I get my wife "into" this, or how to "talk" her into this, Or how anyway you want to slice it, otherwise get her to do something she apparently doesn't want to begin with...... So here is my question How do you get a husband who is obsessed with this lifestyle to give it up, to drop the crap and live a normal life? How do you "talk" him into accepting that his wife wants only him? And that it's normal to want only your wife? That in some marriages or relationships, one person has a right to a faithful marriage, cause I am sorry and don't want to offend anyone, but the moment you touch another person you ARE taking something away from your mate, time and touches otherwise that could and should be spent with your mate, and it doesn't much matter whether your mate is in the room, any touch that is spent on another is taking away from the one that has the right to be the one being touched. If some of these men would consider the fall out before sugjesting and then pushing it with double talk, exp; I don't want another woman, but the thought of someone different is exciting, then to me, he's really saying that I don't excite him and that he does want the other woman, So why don't some of the wifes that have been forced , manulipated or whatever stand up and say hell no, I would really like to know how many swinging wives are doing this to keep their husbands happy at their own expence. and why can't the men accept the wife's decision to have a normal marriage, why do they have to push and behave so badly when told no? cause to me the moment you step away from your SO you step away period.