The Swingers Board - View Single Post - She wants a theesome without me but no foursome with me.

LadyCleo · 10-10-2003, 02:55 PM

Swinging is not a place to be if you two are not secure in your relationship.
It sounds like she's happy to have sex with someone other than you. That is real BIG trouble! It sounds like she is looking for your permission to have sex with everyone but you while staying in your marriage.
Swinging is for the mutual pleasure of BOTH partners. Swinging is supposed to be about sharing pleasures. About becoming more intimate with your spouse, fulfilling fantasies, learning new pleasures from another and then bringing it home to improve on the pleasure. It is not supposed to be you being neglected while she has sex with another man.
I'm sure that there is more to the relationship that you have been able to share on this board. I'm sure that there is a lot of water under the bridge in the 3 years that you did not have any sexual relations with your wife. Maybe some pushing on your part that has made her fearful and pull away from you intimately? Or maybe she has grown apart from you but doesn't have the guts to say that you don't turn her on anymore.

STOP SWINGING IMMEDIATELY!

You two have a lot of work to do on your relationship and should definately seek that help of a marital and possibly sexual therapist. If you don't, you are headed to divorce court.

Good luck to the both of you!
LC

10-10-2003, 02:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
LadyCleo Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 144 Location: Oregon Status: F half of married couple	STOP IMMEDIATELY!!! Swinging is not a place to be if you two are not secure in your relationship. It sounds like she's happy to have sex with someone other than you. That is real BIG trouble! It sounds like she is looking for your permission to have sex with everyone but you while staying in your marriage. Swinging is for the mutual pleasure of BOTH partners. Swinging is supposed to be about sharing pleasures. About becoming more intimate with your spouse, fulfilling fantasies, learning new pleasures from another and then bringing it home to improve on the pleasure. It is not supposed to be you being neglected while she has sex with another man. I'm sure that there is more to the relationship that you have been able to share on this board. I'm sure that there is a lot of water under the bridge in the 3 years that you did not have any sexual relations with your wife. Maybe some pushing on your part that has made her fearful and pull away from you intimately? Or maybe she has grown apart from you but doesn't have the guts to say that you don't turn her on anymore. STOP SWINGING IMMEDIATELY! You two have a lot of work to do on your relationship and should definately seek that help of a marital and possibly sexual therapist. If you don't, you are headed to divorce court. Good luck to the both of you! LC
	__________________ A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. --Mignon McLaughlin Last edited by LadyCleo; 10-10-2003 at 03:01 PM.