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Buck · 10-06-2003, 03:58 PM

Sara and Sibella, you can't imagine how much you are helping me to finally understand my wife after 20+ years of marriage. When she has told me she doesn't fantasize I just thought she wasn't comfortable sharing them with me. Now, you two reinforce the notion that in fact she may not fantasize like I do. Also, Sibella, you mentioned that the open discussion between you and your husband had deepened the trust level between you. That has happened with us too, especially since my wife is becoming convinced that I would never force her to do anything she wouldn't want to. I think maybe that has concerned her in the past although I never, ever tried to force anything. Another interesting revelation concerning the recent communication between me and my wife is that it has been primarily through e-mail the past few days, even though we spend every night together. I think she is just more comfortable discussing these issues when we are not face to face. Isn't that wierd? Maybe not, because so many people open up on this board when they probalby wouldn't face to face. At any rate, among these ramblings, I hope you two understand what a help you have been to help me understand my wife better.
And EBF, thank you for your suggestion to "not let it die" at this point. Believe me, I won't and I think the e-mail method is a good way to keep it going. (I started to say "keep it up" but thought you may think Freud was slipping in somewhere-Ha!)
Also your suggestions about being super attentive to her needs
is working good too. Anyway, thanks EBF. Sibella, and Sara.

10-06-2003, 03:58 PM	#36 (permalink)
Buck Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 173 Location: Austin Status: Couple	MFM Fantasies Sara and Sibella, you can't imagine how much you are helping me to finally understand my wife after 20+ years of marriage. When she has told me she doesn't fantasize I just thought she wasn't comfortable sharing them with me. Now, you two reinforce the notion that in fact she may not fantasize like I do. Also, Sibella, you mentioned that the open discussion between you and your husband had deepened the trust level between you. That has happened with us too, especially since my wife is becoming convinced that I would never force her to do anything she wouldn't want to. I think maybe that has concerned her in the past although I never, ever tried to force anything. Another interesting revelation concerning the recent communication between me and my wife is that it has been primarily through e-mail the past few days, even though we spend every night together. I think she is just more comfortable discussing these issues when we are not face to face. Isn't that wierd? Maybe not, because so many people open up on this board when they probalby wouldn't face to face. At any rate, among these ramblings, I hope you two understand what a help you have been to help me understand my wife better. And EBF, thank you for your suggestion to "not let it die" at this point. Believe me, I won't and I think the e-mail method is a good way to keep it going. (I started to say "keep it up" but thought you may think Freud was slipping in somewhere-Ha!) Also your suggestions about being super attentive to her needs is working good too. Anyway, thanks EBF. Sibella, and Sara.