Good morning, So. Gentleman!
It seems there is a certain lag-time for most couples between making the decision to swing and actually doing so. Kind of like milestones, in a way...
For most, (and I think this applies to singles, too) there is a time period of "thinking" about it, "investigating," "thinking" some more...and so on. Then the decision is made to go forward. In your case, ya'll already knew a couple and that cut short your time from deciding to go forward and actually finding a couple. Now, however, after the decision has been made, ya'll are going through the period of building up to the actual activity.
I don't think it is uncommon, once we have decided to go forward, to suddenly start thinking, "Ooops! What about this? And that?" and so forth and so on. Just other things you have to get squared in your mind. Almost like a hesitancy to make the final commitment...wondering if you've convered all the bases in your thought processes. Could something like this be what ya'll are encountering just now? We all make decisions in different ways...some slow and deliberate, others quick and to the point.
And one other question that kind of raised a red flag in my thoughts...well, maybe just a pink flag!
"I sat and watched the other male play with her breast as they were trying to be a little sneak about it."
It's a pink flag because maybe I don't understand the comment completely, but I don't think being "sneaky" has any place in a swinging relationship. Just a thought...-EBF
