I am glad to hear you arent in a hurry. And yes talking about it is half the fun. I think you are going into this with your eyes open!! I know what worked for us was fantasizing in our minds to help get used to the idea of seeing our spouses with another. The real thing is different but this help. The first time is a little wierd but hopefully in a good way. We are taught to have only one partner for life so this lifestyle kinda goes against that and you get those strange little thoughts. we have found that playing has made us even closer than we were and has added a touch of excitement to our sex life..althought that was always a great thing!! We feel more open about talking about things we want to share, We look at woman and discuss them as well as men now. And that is a major turn on to both. We love watching others flirt with us and knowing that we will be going home together. We both know the other is our one and only and that we will never leave each other over this. So i wish you the best of luck and if you decide to swing enjoy! if you decide not to at least you know you can discuss your fantasies and be comfy. You dont have to live out every fantasy...
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