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Hi i am the she half...Make sure you talk ALOT about any kinda swing before you jump into it. May i suggest a couple to start with. I also agree same room sex to start with to see how you feel about even haveing someone else with you guys. We have been together 21 years and i was to shy to admit that i wanted to try it but once we started talking about it i opened up and told him what i wanted. But we talked months before we ever did anything. We looked on sites (i wish i found this one earlier) We asked alot of questions of each other, And set strict ground rules to start. Once we started our search we talked with the couple for a couple months meeting them for dinner and makeing sure we were comfy with them.
Another good thing to do is go out and watch guys flirting with her and visa versa...does it make ya jelous??? Imagine what if they were with her...how does that make you feel?? In this lifestyle jelousy doesnt work.
And My husbands opinion of watching me with another man (and no at first he wasnt real sure that he would enjoy haveing another man with his wife) He Thought it was so sexy and said he got to see just how sexy i was while having sex. It was a major turn on for him to watch me. And i love watching him!! We know that the people we are with are just "playmates" and friends. Niether of us feel threatenend or jelous. We have a strict ground rule that we never push....If anyone involved is uncomfy with anything at anytime they can stop what is going on or stop all of it without any hard feelings. So if one of us decided we just dont like what we are doing or who we are with it stops and we go. We always let the other couple know this and they have the option as well. This is a game of fun and we dont want anyones feelings hurt or someone not comfy!
hope this helps a little
that is my 2 cents for today.....s
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