Hi BandC and Welcome to the Board.
First, I'm a female, but you last line said "girls" too! Right off the bat, I think that it is great that you are giving this some serious thought before just jumping right in. Whatever decision you end up with will be the best for the two of you if you approach the idea with reason and caution and "information."
I don't know enough about ya'll to give any real opinions, but I want to throw out a few things for you to consider.
Communication...you addressed that...but you also mentioned that ya'll are not married yet. Certainly, unmarried people can have just as good communication as those that have been married for many years, but on the surface, I tend to feel that couples that have been together for a long time have had the opportunity to "explore" themselves fully and to really "know" each other - all parts of the communication thing.
She admitted...be certain, 100% certain, this is something she is really interested in and she isn't just giving you lip service...thinking that the idea will go away. This kind of goes back to the communication thing. Sometimes we see that women agree to swinging when in reality they don't really have any desire to do so. That being said, there are many women that really enjoy it, and many were the initiators!
This statement concerned me a little...
"I think it would be very arousing to see her have sex with someone else, but I keep wondering if I'm going to feel like I've lost something special if I let someone else touch her."
...but I would imagine it is something many go through. Before going further, I would suggest you get your own feelings about this firmly established.
As a suggestion, ya'll may want to consider same room sex with another couple before actually involving a single male or actual swapping of partners. That might give you some good avenues of thought and open the communication doors even wider. Just kind of build up to it more gradually before going all out.
You will get all kinds of answers...and that is the good thing about this board...lots of different views. But certainly, don't hesitate to ask questions as they come to you...and we all wish you the best! - EBF
