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**TNT** · 09-29-2003, 11:12 PM

Don't be afraid! Seriously, we attended our local social last night, and it came to me while sitting there holding two beautiful women on my lap that the people we party with are truly other than my brother the best friends I have. One of the women attends as a single when her husband has to work and requests that Teresa and I escort her as they don't play alone. The level of trust in us that this implies touches me, but even more lets me know that my behavior is correct. For us the clubs are just a meeting place with like minded friends( insert theme from Cheers here) and one of our ambitions is to operate a club. Many of the people who come as newbies are unsure what to expect when attending a club or social. Here goes:

1. We recommend an off premise club for your first experiences. Besides being much easier to find, they offer a no pressure environment as no sex is allowed, only good conversation and sexy dancing.

2. The people there will not jump you when you come in the door.
Most clubs offer an orientation meeting for first timers and will offer to introduce you around, but if your wish is to sit and observe you can do that too.

3. One of the most common complaints about any club is the "cliques". We have never had that problem, but we TALK to the regulars at a new club. Understand that many of these people are old friends and perhaps intimates. Introduce yourself and become part of the clique.

4. No expectations. On your first visits go with no plans to have sex with any one but your SO. Some people are disappointed when their fantasies are not immediately fulfilled, but hey, you should just have had a good night. Go home and make mad passionate love together while whispering about which of the people you met would be fun to fulfill those fantasies with.

5. Use the people you meet as a sounding board much like this forum. We have spent many nights at a table with a newbie couple just answering questions and giving them the benefit of our experience. We have the tshirt from most experiences and hell, if you talk to the newbies, when they are ready you usually get picked for that first time because you made them feel comfortable.

Any questions?

Ted

09-29-2003, 11:12 PM	#1 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,199 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple SLS Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 31	Advice to newbies on going to swinger clubs Don't be afraid! Seriously, we attended our local social last night, and it came to me while sitting there holding two beautiful women on my lap that the people we party with are truly other than my brother the best friends I have. One of the women attends as a single when her husband has to work and requests that Teresa and I escort her as they don't play alone. The level of trust in us that this implies touches me, but even more lets me know that my behavior is correct. For us the clubs are just a meeting place with like minded friends( insert theme from Cheers here) and one of our ambitions is to operate a club. Many of the people who come as newbies are unsure what to expect when attending a club or social. Here goes: 1. We recommend an off premise club for your first experiences. Besides being much easier to find, they offer a no pressure environment as no sex is allowed, only good conversation and sexy dancing. 2. The people there will not jump you when you come in the door. Most clubs offer an orientation meeting for first timers and will offer to introduce you around, but if your wish is to sit and observe you can do that too. 3. One of the most common complaints about any club is the "cliques". We have never had that problem, but we TALK to the regulars at a new club. Understand that many of these people are old friends and perhaps intimates. Introduce yourself and become part of the clique. 4. No expectations. On your first visits go with no plans to have sex with any one but your SO. Some people are disappointed when their fantasies are not immediately fulfilled, but hey, you should just have had a good night. Go home and make mad passionate love together while whispering about which of the people you met would be fun to fulfill those fantasies with. 5. Use the people you meet as a sounding board much like this forum. We have spent many nights at a table with a newbie couple just answering questions and giving them the benefit of our experience. We have the tshirt from most experiences and hell, if you talk to the newbies, when they are ready you usually get picked for that first time because you made them feel comfortable. Any questions? Ted __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.