Tarnished Halo, if you find yourself questioning whether you're attracted enough to someone to go to bed with them, I would strongly guess that the chemistry isn't there, and you probably shouldn't do it. I used to ask myself this question many times when I first started swinging. You can meet people who are attractive and nice to look at, yet you might not really "click" with them on an interpersonal level.... or, you can meet someone who you really enjoy talking to and spending time with, yet you know you're definitely not as physically drawn to them as to your partner. You'll know when you meet someone who really interests you or who stirs you up, and that's the person or couple that would be best to consider as a potential playmate.
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