I'm not sure I can answer for you, but I can tell you how I personally feel about chemistry. For me it isn't really based on visual stimulation. Yes, my potential partner can't be physically repulsive, but I'm more interested in getting off on her mind, not her body.
I like people who enjoy laughing and having a good time, are sexually open-minded, and are honest with me and with themselves. That makes the chemistry for me.
But, it's different for everybody and what I said may not hold true for you. You may want to ponder exactly what makes a man sexually attractive to you, and I think you'll find your answer there.
-B
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