I disagree with Nittanylion. My wife and I have been swinging for about three years now and I had my first bi-experience about a year and a half ago. We only play as a couple and never with single males that AREN'T bi. Our experience has been that most males are at least curious about it. That's what led me to my first experience. Many have already made up their minds at to their preference, be it for or against. And that's what it is, a preference. I get the impression Nitty feels like there's a bias against him for his choice. If guys don't want to have him in a sexual situation because of his preference, that's their prerogative, not their problem. I agree that they have to accept your choice, the same as you have to accept and respect theirs. But that doesn't mean that they're doing something wrong by not accepting you into their bed with their wife. When we play with others, we make if very clear that we're a couple, if you want to play with one, you have to be able to play with the other. If that's unacceptable, no hard feelings (no pun intended, of course). But, so far, we haven't had that many back out.
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