I think it's more important to realize that we all have self-conscious things here, and there.. And that my girlfriend is like 100 #'s and still gets nervous about people seeing her body!
I am proud of my somewhat dumpy body, but tanning just a little helps *alot* -- you'd be surprised!
Anyway good luck, and if it means anything to ya, I think I can have my pick with the ladies, and I love a big ass!
-couplela