[WildFlower]

I thank everyone for there advice.
I went adhead and went with my gut instinct which was to tell him. I am glad I did. I am not very good at keeping stuff from my husband he can see it in my eyes.
He did feel betrayed but was glad that I told him instead of keeping it a secret. He still loves me and I still love him. He is one of the most importatn people in my lives equalled only by my kids. I told him I never want to be with anyone again without him there. He said I could be with my girlfriend alone if I wanted but I don't want to do that either. I enjoy it more when we are all together.
I am going to tell the other man that I told my husband because I can't keep a secret from him ever. And what he decides to do is up to him.
I don't think he came over with the intention of having sex. But I could be wrong. The optimist in me always tries to see the good in people. The reason I think this is because wouldn;t he have tried something like this way before now?
I am glad I told the truth. I was scared but could not take the sick feelings of guilt and disgust for myself of letting my lust take over and keeping a secret from my hubby. I think everything will work out ok. Thank you again for your advice.