The Devil says....
No matter how many ways you look at it and no matter how many benign modifiers you attempt to use to soft light your actions, YOU CHEATED ON YOUR HUSBAND!!!!! End of story. This is one of the many potential hazards of depersonalizing sex in order to be able to include others. Sex with others can begin to seem like it's not that big of a deal. It can become far to easy to rationalize,intellectualize, and justify crossing lines in the sand so to speak.Example: " My husband has let me have sex before when he was not there" I know I'm about to open myself up for attack with what I'm about to say but I just can't help myself on this one......
I have never understood how it could be considered swinging when you allow your spouse to play with others without you. I have always veiwed that particular practice to be more in the neighborhood of sanctioned cheating. If that is something two people agree on within their relationship then more power to them. But I do not see how anyone can logically and rationally think that when your spouse goes off and does their own thing with someone else that does not involve you in slightest how it has anything to do with furthering a sexual relationship between one another.
You are 100% responsible for what you did but Your husband may have blurred a line that was not to be crossed by allowing you to indulge in solo activities without him.He is not responsible for your actions in the slightest but he may have invited this situation to some degree by opening up Pandoras box to start with.
Too many people treat swinging too lightly. It does have the potential to directly bring about the demise of the very relationship they are attempting to broaden. It should be given the same caution that you would give a nuclear device. For it could become one of sorts if you are not carefull.
The Devil |