Tell your husband. If you tell him, it's an indiscretion that you are sorry that happened. A boundry that was crossed that you won't cross again. If that happened to me, I would be pissed, but it would NOT threaten our relationship.
If you don't tell him, it's infidelity. If that happened to me I would be LIVID- and it WOULD threaten our relationship.
At least that's how I look at it.
Swinging is a shared activity- if you don't tell him, you are not sharing. You are having a private relationship.
What does this do to the trust between you and your husband? I personally think trust is more important in a relationship than love.
The comfortable 4-some may be forever gone. Maybe not. But for heavens sake don't fuck up your marriage. Brit_Pair is right- go with your honesty instinct.
Good luck. |