I consider Bear and I blessed that we've never played with couples who drank. The only thing a person's who has embided to much should do is be driven home. In your case Ann, this woman's limits and personality changed to the point I think you'd be better off not playing with them.
However, there can never be too much honest talk with your partner or potential partners in the lifestyle. I'd keep discussing it. The worst that could happen is that you'd all find out more about yourselves and your limits.
-- Bunny |