Indeed a tough question... Mrs. Ditto!
In my 43 years, I have only ever seen one man that just flat out floored me. I was in my early twenties and just happened to turn around to him staring me in the face. Needless to say I made a blubbering fool of myself, he wanted change for a dollar and I wanted to faint. I was complete mush and would have been putty in his hands. But he just wanted change.
That said. I can speak for Mr. O and myself on this one. We are attracted to those that are similar to us in our morals and beliefs. That is where the attraction begins. Attractive people come in all sorts of packages and, like Jen, maybe it is just a random act of kindness that we innocently and unbeknownst to them witness, or how they treat the others around them. You can tell a lot about how (speaking of couples here) a person is, in how they treat their spouses. I'm not trying to leave singles out, we just haven't really met with any other than briefly in the context of swinging, so I don't know about that yet.
So attractiveness for us begins with someone who is not self centered, has common interests and those who have good, kind hearts. Once that has been established, then the sparks may begin to fly. And those kind of people come in all kinds of packaging.
So, I suppose you could say we are attracted immensely to the heart and just can't be attracted to those that don't possess one.
As for swinging with someone where we both aren't interested in the other couple, we've been there, done that....and it doesn't work out well for us. So if there isn't mutual interest, we don't play, period.
Geesh, Mrs. Ditto....Are all your questions gonna be this tough?
