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yawanna · 08-22-2003, 02:16 PM

Now I LUV reading good stuff like that fun_pairTX

I am recently and temporarily 20 lbs more than usual...lifestyle change, less active in my work, etc. etc. and I'm very self conscious about it. Our existing swinger friends say it doesn't change a BIT who I am or why they luv us .. gawd BLESS them.. but I worry about when we meet new people. Will they go 'eeewww' or brush me off? I'd considered us taking a break until I get back to my original size.

I have heard the remarks made about heavier women, and older women as well....the not so complimentary comments, and now I remember that the commenter was, how shall I say, usually.... an asshole.

My husband talks to me and I read posts like this one from fun_pair.....and I have to admit, it's true. It's the confidence and an inviting fun personality that mature, confident, kind people can be attracted to. And we have been with couples where the woman was plump or plus sized, and it didn't matter a whit to us. By the same token, one heavier woman in particular who grumbled and complained all night at a club, was deemed 'not sexy at all' by my husband.

We are going to a house party tommorrow night. We know the hosts and there will be a lot of new to us people there as well, and a hottub

I'm nervous. But hopefully I will have some words of encouragement and good news to share with y'all

"one toke over the line sweet jesus, one toke over the line......"

08-22-2003, 02:16 PM	#3 (permalink)
yawanna Has Left the Building Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 1,176 Location: Canada Status: married female	Now I LUV reading good stuff like that fun_pairTX I am recently and temporarily 20 lbs more than usual...lifestyle change, less active in my work, etc. etc. and I'm very self conscious about it. Our existing swinger friends say it doesn't change a BIT who I am or why they luv us .. gawd BLESS them.. but I worry about when we meet new people. Will they go 'eeewww' or brush me off? I'd considered us taking a break until I get back to my original size. I have heard the remarks made about heavier women, and older women as well....the not so complimentary comments, and now I remember that the commenter was, how shall I say, usually.... an asshole. My husband talks to me and I read posts like this one from fun_pair.....and I have to admit, it's true. It's the confidence and an inviting fun personality that mature, confident, kind people can be attracted to. And we have been with couples where the woman was plump or plus sized, and it didn't matter a whit to us. By the same token, one heavier woman in particular who grumbled and complained all night at a club, was deemed 'not sexy at all' by my husband. We are going to a house party tommorrow night. We know the hosts and there will be a lot of new to us people there as well, and a hottub I'm nervous. But hopefully I will have some words of encouragement and good news to share with y'all "one toke over the line sweet jesus, one toke over the line......"