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Originally posted by Quin
While the one poster makes some very good points for not telling the wife, I have to go with the majority on this one, tell her. First and foremost being...no matter what hurt or pain this may bring to her (if any at all), what's going to hurt a whole hellva lot more is to find this out from someone else. For instance, you don't say anything, you and wife have another get together with this couple, your wife stays sober and the other hubby begins tappin his cock on your lips again and you eagerly indulge, the wife wonders about this and the other wife says, "oh, don't worry, they did this the last time." HELLO!! That's gonna hurt, deeply. And if your wife talks to this couple, there's no telling when or where it could innocently come up in conversation by the other couple. This call is yours tho, you know your wife best. Altho I think I'd set a new rule between you and wife...when swinging is definitely gonna happen, no gettin tipsy. It really is more enjoyable to have all your senses not hindered by alcohol and sex is far more enjoyable when one is awake as opposed to passed out/sleeping.
Quin
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You are right about a couple of things at least; the call is indeed his, as he should know his wife and the general situation best. And second, no getting falling-down drunk when playing. I think most of us would agree that sex with a drunk is about as much fun as a tax audit.
As for avoiding the "hurt" of her finding out from the couple they played with, that one is simple. Assuming that his wife is not inclined to deal with this well, all he need do is approach the couple quietly and tell them that what happened before was a fluke, that he'd had a few drinks himself and now he's not inclined to repeat the episode, and it would be best to just not bring the subject up with his wife, as it would be embarassing, etc, and then just let it drop. Most likely (unless they are just total assholes) the couple will abide by his wishes.
The main thing is to avoid having something approximating the following happening to finster...
-- Bear