[PrtyinDuo]

Well,first off,the Mrs and I ALLWAYS swing together as a cpl.(thats our preferrence)but know alot of others that have 'agreed'(key word) to swing alone at times also.But as we see it,that was ALL talked about be4 hand and whatever rules they had were 'agreed'(key word again) upon then.Communication and mutual involvment is a main ingrediant in any relationship,and even more so in a swinging lifestyle.If one doesn't feel comfortable with a certain sittuation or the way things are going,then there is going to be at least one person that is not happy.Two if the other is as committted in the relationship as should be.As for 'him' allready screwing the 'one' he picked out w/o your knoweldge and consent before,then that constitutes 'cheating' in our book.Sounds like he made a decission allready for you,and you have two choices.Go and put up with whatever 'he'decides or find someone who will treat you with respect and and include you too in both your lifes choices.Just our 2 cents.