I agree with what has been said by others. You have to think with your big head, not your little head and size people up as accurately as possible..just as single women do every day.
The other issue is how are you going to feel with your husband/wife in another room. But this could be a whole separate can of worms.
For us separate rooms is not a big desire simply because half the fun of swinging is watching each other enjoying ourselves.
Jesse