For us, it's real simple. While we have not done separate rooms yet (at least with Bunny I haven't, since she and I are still pretty new as a swing couple; did it countless times before), it is definitely an option. Neither of us are concerned about separate room playing, for the simple reason that before we play with someone, we will get to know them well enough to know whether there are any concerns along these lines. If there are, we don't play with them, period.
One of the most important aspects of swinging is to make sure that all concerned are clear on the ground rules long before the slap-and-tickle ever starts. And size the other couple up, carefully. Talk to them, spend some time with them, see how each reacts to different circumstances and stimuli. If you do that, and think with your brain, not your genitals, while you do your observing, you can pretty much separate the wheat from the chaff, as it were. And most importantly, trust your instincts. If something doesn't "feel" right about a couple, then move on.
The problem some people have is that they meet another couple, and the couple really turns them on, and they start thinking with their little heads instead of their big ones, and they can end up in trouble. (And don't think for a minute that women are not as prone to this as men are; I've seen it WAY too many times).
So take your time and get to know the couple first. Then, if you do decide to do separate room swap, there's no real need to worry...
-- Bear |