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Originally posted by TNT
For those couples that play separately in different rooms, how do you deal with the safety issue involved? For men how do you gain the trust in another man that he will not get out of line with your wife in a sexual situation, i.e…pushing her beyond what she wants to do. Women how do you come to trust a man enough to really relax in a sexual situation to where you are not concerned that he will over power you into doing something you don’t want to do? |
Very interesting question, one that I would like to hear more about.
We never, EVER meant to play in separate rooms, but over the course of about six months or so...it just kinda happened, with this one particular couple. Major bad move on our part. While we had played with them often, we didn't really know them, know them, (if that makes sense) and the guy snapped on me. This incident caused us to cease all swinging activity for about four months.
I don't really know what the answer is, in how you determine what the 'safety' factors are. I think for us, we are going to have to REALLY know them well in order to play separately, as we do so enjoy the fun of playing in the same room, but separately can be fun too. It just has to be with the right people, and we are MUCH more careful about that now.