We've noted how something as simple as kissing can set some people off. It also turns some of them off

So I guess you're in pretty good company. We try to play it by ear ourselves, with new couples.
BUT, from a personal standpoint. I
need the kissing myself. I've always considered it part of foreplay, and foreplay is a very
big part of sex to me. I've never been able to
tell my dick to stand up. And, have it actually do it LOL
Of course, it could just be old age setting in on me
David -- the goofy one