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wrnakedru · 08-09-2003, 12:27 AM

Several years ago, ex and I had a couple with whom we shared social and recreational times as well as the more intimate activities. The guys played as a team in golf tournaments, we ladies rode along in our own cart as "cheerleaders" [and the occasional distraction for the opposing team.

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It was known by all 4 of us that some "separate" activity was indulged in by each on occasion. So when the male called me at work suggesting a noontime tryst (location-vehicular, due to limited time), I accepted without too much hesitation.

Afterwards, we drove back to my work location for him to drop me off to finish my workday. En route, he requested that I not inform my husband of the tryst. And that if I would agree, he would also not inform his wife. I was understandably puzzled by the request. So I asked "Why?" He explained that he missed the "thrill" of forbidden activity; the lifestyle and the consensual, open acceptance had removed a great deal of his enjoyment of the sexual activity itself. He wanted to know if I agreed. No, quite frankly, I did not. He asked if that meant I was going to tell my husband of our encounter. I told him I would not be at all comfortable with our activity being kept secret from either my husband or his wife. He shook his head, and told me, almost sadly, that my non-complicity meant that we would not "do this" again.

I told my husband of my noontime adventure, and also discussed the strange (I thought) request. My husband was not angered by it (as I had known he would not be)saying the two fellows had discussed this feeling of non-excitment the one was experiencing. My husband then reminded me of our friends behavior at a recent party; a large group of people were enjoying each other and themselves all in one play area. Our friend, after brief participation, had left the area to go to an adjacent room where a television screen was showing porn movie tapes. He spent the balance of his time, while others were "partying" nearby, standing and watching the screen while stroking himself.

I am still puzzled by our friends feelings and behavior. Have any others felt this way .... or encountered someone who did?

08-09-2003, 12:27 AM	#68 (permalink)
wrnakedru Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 1,989 Location: Bliss Status: Female	Strange to me ... Several years ago, ex and I had a couple with whom we shared social and recreational times as well as the more intimate activities. The guys played as a team in golf tournaments, we ladies rode along in our own cart as "cheerleaders" [and the occasional distraction for the opposing team. ] It was known by all 4 of us that some "separate" activity was indulged in by each on occasion. So when the male called me at work suggesting a noontime tryst (location-vehicular, due to limited time), I accepted without too much hesitation. Afterwards, we drove back to my work location for him to drop me off to finish my workday. En route, he requested that I not inform my husband of the tryst. And that if I would agree, he would also not inform his wife. I was understandably puzzled by the request. So I asked "Why?" He explained that he missed the "thrill" of forbidden activity; the lifestyle and the consensual, open acceptance had removed a great deal of his enjoyment of the sexual activity itself. He wanted to know if I agreed. No, quite frankly, I did not. He asked if that meant I was going to tell my husband of our encounter. I told him I would not be at all comfortable with our activity being kept secret from either my husband or his wife. He shook his head, and told me, almost sadly, that my non-complicity meant that we would not "do this" again. I told my husband of my noontime adventure, and also discussed the strange (I thought) request. My husband was not angered by it (as I had known he would not be)saying the two fellows had discussed this feeling of non-excitment the one was experiencing. My husband then reminded me of our friends behavior at a recent party; a large group of people were enjoying each other and themselves all in one play area. Our friend, after brief participation, had left the area to go to an adjacent room where a television screen was showing porn movie tapes. He spent the balance of his time, while others were "partying" nearby, standing and watching the screen while stroking himself. I am still puzzled by our friends feelings and behavior. Have any others felt this way .... or encountered someone who did?