 ....guilty of inexperience !
It sure sounds like we've all had experiences that could have been handled better ---if we'd known in advance!
That being said, I will admit to fumbling when giving a blowjob; My gentleman friend told me he was coming, and I presumed he meant for me to let go (I thought he was indicating his wish, as I have heard some men don't like any stimulation when they are coming..) --and it was my first sexual experience with this man. So I didn't know his preferences at all.
I picked up a towel I had at the bedside, and there was a silence...at that moment I realized maybe I'd done something wrong. I felt horrible and because of my inexperience and subsequent shame (jeez...I gave a bad blowjob.....?!?!) I couldn't even say anything. Neither did my partner.
I was upset, but was quiet about it. After all,
I hoped he would bring up any problems if he wanted to discuss it further. He didn't.
I felt for months like I'd 'failed'.
Oh, and this same man had given me no clues (no groans, no sighs).....nothing that indicated he was 'on the verge' of coming...and I thought we were just getting underway! So I was completely taken by surprise by his simple 'I'm coming'...I had really very little time to respond.
I enjoy swallowing...and if I'd known his preference, it would have saved us the uncomfortable silence afterwards.
I wish he had given me a second chance.
I really wanted to please him and put a big grin on his face.
Later, after confiding w/a friend, she made a nice suggestion: the next morning I should have asked for a chance to make it up to him ---- perhaps with a smile --- to keep things sweet and pleasant.
If only I had her wisdom and humor!
I guess we learn from our mistakes.
---So, Unregistered Guest, did you all kiss and make up?
I sure hope so!
[[These things all get cleared up ahead of time w/ you experienced swingers....but I tell ya, when it's the first time with a lover, it is much trickier (at least for me!)]] |