I have to go along with Julie, EBF and some of the others. From where I sit, your wife fucked up bigtime. First, by not letting him know up front that she didn't want him cumming in her mouth, and second, by throwing a fit when it in fact happened.
I have yet to see any woman who felt that strongly about this issue who did not tell me from the start that she didn't want me to cum in her mouth. If she has that big of a hangup about taking a guy's load, she should always say so beforehand.
And if your wife's concern was disease (the mention of the condom), then she also fucked up by not having him wrap that rascal before ever starting the Hoover Maneuver on him, because she was swallowing his precum long before he ever got to the main event, as it were, and that can carry all the same bugs as semen can.
Bottom line, you guys screwed up in a big way, especially your wife.
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