The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Does being or feeling left out happen often?

Brit_Pair · 08-06-2003, 06:04 AM

I've never felt left out. I'm a consumate voyeur (a fact I've mentioned before) but I crave active involvement too, so the fact that I've never felt left out is not entirely down to my desire to watch.

I'm fortunate, because Mrs B always wants me involved with her at some level when we meet with our playmates. It might be in a direct physical sense (me assisting the other woman to pleasure her) or in a more ethereal fashion. If I'm watching her pleasuring/being pleasured by the other woman, Mrs B will often look to hold long, lingering eye contact with me. It's an incredibly powerful and intimate moment, when your wife's eyes lock with yours while she's having her pussy eaten by another woman.

Ultimately (and this reinforces points made in some of the posts above), I guess one of the key reasons that neither of us ever feels left out is because we both know exactly why we're there, what we want, and we're constantly communicating, even when we're not saying a word.

I'd agree with PAULnCarmen that you have to be prepared to take the initiative at times. But - IMHO - it's important to learn to read the mood so you get your timing right. For me, it feels like an intuitive ability, and mine has definitely sharpened up with experience. This was just your first meeting (and a pretty successful one from the sound of it), so try and relax, and give yourselves time. Things will only get better.

08-06-2003, 06:04 AM	#11 (permalink)
Brit_Pair Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 3,635 Location: UK Status: Couple	I've never felt left out. I'm a consumate voyeur (a fact I've mentioned before) but I crave active involvement too, so the fact that I've never felt left out is not entirely down to my desire to watch. I'm fortunate, because Mrs B always wants me involved with her at some level when we meet with our playmates. It might be in a direct physical sense (me assisting the other woman to pleasure her) or in a more ethereal fashion. If I'm watching her pleasuring/being pleasured by the other woman, Mrs B will often look to hold long, lingering eye contact with me. It's an incredibly powerful and intimate moment, when your wife's eyes lock with yours while she's having her pussy eaten by another woman. Ultimately (and this reinforces points made in some of the posts above), I guess one of the key reasons that neither of us ever feels left out is because we both know exactly why we're there, what we want, and we're constantly communicating, even when we're not saying a word. I'd agree with PAULnCarmen that you have to be prepared to take the initiative at times. But - IMHO - it's important to learn to read the mood so you get your timing right. For me, it feels like an intuitive ability, and mine has definitely sharpened up with experience. This was just your first meeting (and a pretty successful one from the sound of it), so try and relax, and give yourselves time. Things will only get better.