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Originally posted by NightGoddess
I think if any of us made a mistake we would appreciate being given the benefit of the doubt. Poor guy, he was perhaps just as surprised as you were.
The male newbie was probably so excited at his first time he was caught without warning.
I hope you can all make peace, be friends and laugh together over this one soon.
--If it is a possibility, try being the 'experienced' ones and say, sorry, didn't mean to over-react...and get to talking about it in a non-judgmental way, like "Hey, there were some things I really liked...how about you?" ---and go from there to preferences, but be gentle. We all like to think of ourselves as good lovers, and something like this can be tough on the ego... |
I totally agree with this advice. Obviously it is always everyone involved's responsibility to TALK beforehand.. but being newbies they probably only now realize the importance of that. He also may not have had any idea that he would respond so.. strongly.. to what he was experiencing.
Anyone can over-react at times.. but I think when you are experienced, and know you are dealing with newbies, you must be willing to take on a certain amount of responsibility as an example (hopefully a good one), a guide, and a teacher.
Hopefully you can all discuss the situation and how to avoid it in the future. Open communication is one of the most important, and can also be one of the hardest lessons learned in this lifestyle.
Raella