I have to agree with some of the others this should of been discused and understood before anything actually got started. We make it a point to set ground rules with the couple that we are with before we actually do anything. They were new and they didnt think to ask and Im sure he is probably just as upset over this as your wife is.
I agree with the others, you need to talk to them and let them know that he should of at least said something to her in advance. I have seen new people have a bad experience and then they decide not to try it again and I know that isnt what you both would like to see happen.
Good luck I hope you all can straighten this out! |