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Originally posted by NightGoddess
I think if any of us made a mistake we would appreciate being given the benefit of the doubt. ...The male newbie was probably so excited at his first time he was caught without warning.
--If it is a possibility, try being the 'experienced' ones and say, sorry, didn't mean to over-react...and get to talking about it in a non-judgmental way, like "Hey, there were some things I really liked...how about you?" ---and go from there to preferences, but be gentle. We all like to think of ourselves as good lovers, and something like this can be tough on the ego... |
I think there are risks when you party with newbies, as well as pleasures. The risks can include one (or both) of them discovering part way into the activity that they weren't quite as ready as they'd thought. Sometimes one being overcome by the "green-eyed" monster is the unhappy result. So it seems that this was on down the list of dangers that are possible, and falls into the category of a "manners" type of issue. And yes, as the experienced couple, you can do a lot to ease what is now probably a guy who is "horrified" with himself for having done something wrong.
We have all known of those (maybe been among them) who have had a negative experience at some time. If the "unhappy" partner is sufficiently verbal, it can pretty much put a damper on any activity for some time to come for the "offender". I'll bet you wouldn't want their first experience to be their last one, so keep in mind, newbies are still learning. And you have it in your power to take this in stride, and make them comfortable in the lifestyle, or leave things as they stand, and leave them VERY gunshy about not doing things "right". Up to you!