You are all right. I actually just got off the phone with him (he is in Germany), and he again is adamate about what he wants. He also confessed that the person he has "picked out", he is already sleeping with. He is "being honest" to protect me, so that I have a choice. I am leaving the end of August to go be with him in Germany (for three years) and he has made it clear that if I can't handle this lifestyle, then I shouldn't bother coming over. He continues to reassure me that he loves me, wants me to be ok with this so we can be married and live together forever, and that I need to accept this. My heart and my head are not agreeing right now. And, I'm sure that this is probably one of the most crazy things you've all heard of. Am I wrong for trying to go along? I know this isn't exactly a swingers topic, but you all have experience sharing the person you love in the most intimate way.
Thanks again for all your replies. |