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Originally posted by soppo:
While I recognize that like the participants being individuals, clubs are also individual, what can we expect for nudity. Will everyone walk in and immediately take all their clothes off. Does sexual activity begin immediately or does it progress slowly. Does everyone become "publicly" naked. Will a person be rejected if they don't progress in nudity and sexual activity at the same rate as the others? If in my own controlled and being dealt with jealousy or self-consciousness find myself limp as a cooked noodle, will other laugh at me? If my wife does start loosening up, getting comfortable, and obviously having a great time, will a pile of men be all over her like bees flocking to honey? What can we expect generally?
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Unfortunately your first statement pretty much says it all. Each club is different, so it's hard to answer these questions.
Nudity: some clubs have certain areas that you must be nude to enter, at others everything may be all mixed and things may progress from clothed to nudity. In general women come dressed sexy.. she might want to even bring a teddy or chemise to change into. In your case I would expect to be shirtless (at least) by midnight.. if not down to your boxers. Again tho, these things very from club to club. I will say that there are some clubs where you can expect to be nude fairly early in the evening.
Do things start right away? I would say in general no. But then again if you get there an hour or so after the club has opened for the evening.. you may walk in and find that everyone is naked and playing with a neighbor.
Will your wife find herself in the midst of a bunch of guys? That depends a lot on what she is doing and how many guys are there. I will say that this is very likely if you are there on a night when they are allowing single guys in. I would suggest you avoid an on-premise club on a night when single guys are there UNLESS you have a desire to swing with single guys.. which I'm thinking you don't. If it's not a single guy night, I guess it would depend on what your wife is doing. If you and she are having sex in a room where others are, don't be surprised to find a roaming hand. If that is the case and you or she is not comfortable with it.. remove the hand and let them know that you aren't interested. The polite thing on their end would be to ask first.. but it won't always happen.. think heat of the moment and naked female body.
I know that doesn't help a lot. What I would really suggest for you is that you talk with the hosts of the club you are considering going to before you go. Ask them your questions. Since they are at their club on a regular basis they should be able to answer them for you. If the club has a new swinger orientation be sure to go to it.
I wish you luck
Julie
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