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Originally posted by soppo:
I thought NO MEANS NO. I thought everyone could go at their own pace. What if my wife agrees to watch, socialize, be friendly, etc. but when our actual penetration takes place she would prefer a more secluded spot. Will people hoot and holler? Will they verbalize their displeasure?
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yes, no does mean no. Unfortunately there are two other factors at play here. I'll address the primary one first.
On-premise clubs being what they are.. you are basically at some point expected to engage in some sexual activity (that means that while everyone else is getting busy it's not polite for you to just be standing around). That doesn't mean that you have to "get busy" with someone other than your spouse. However, you will most likely feel some pressure to do so. Consider this.. this is a swing club.. and for the most part those who attend on-premise swing clubs are looking to swap, so it will be assumed that you are there for the same reason. As such, it is likely that you will be approached, suggestions, comments, requests may be made. Some people are more forward than others and (unfortunately) don't always ask before they get a little pushy. And if alchohol is allowed at this club.. well that brings a whole nother level of play into the mix. (We've all seen how alchohol does not always have a good affect on people).
That being said back to the no means no issue. If you do decide to go and you are approached explain to them that you are new to this and aren't sure what you are ready for yet. Most people will be fine with this. However, you are likely to encounter one or two (10 or 12 if this club allows single guys) who try to push you to do more than you are ready for.
I hope that explains better what I was saying earlier. I don't want to scare you from going to an on-premise club but you should be aware of how things can be.
You might get lucky tho and have no problems at all with people.. and you and your wife get so turned on by watching some others play that you start going at it in the midst of the fun... you can excercise your exhibitionist side and voyeuristic side all at once
Good Luck and be sure to let us know how it goes and what your experience was once you do go.
Julie
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