Julie, Thank you for your thoughtful and prompt response. Let me tell you this. I want to watch others. I want to be watched. I am very visually sexual. I am also a little of a "show". If we go to an off-premises club, while I/we certainly would enjoy sexual conversation, there, of course will be no watch and be watched. My wife I don't think will have any problem watching others. That could very well become the prelude into the willingness to be watched. But that is not a guarantee. She is very reserved yet has great cums. A couple of years ago we were at a downtown hotel with a special large room with huge picture windows that extended almost from floor to ceiling. Later that evening when we made love, we had the lights on and we knew that there were people standing at windows accross from us and a little higher watching us. Our lovemaking was FABULOUS. She was even screaming which she doesn't usually do. If I had proposed that room and warned her that people would be watvhing us as we screwed, she would never have agreed. But she did and admitted she liked being watched. When I proposed it again in a different setting, she declined saying that she felt "vulnerable".
Continuing this thought though, you refer to the sexual pressure at an on-premises club. I thought NO MEANS NO. I thought everyone could go at their own pace. What if my wife agrees to watch, socialize, be friendly, etc. but when our actual penetration takes place she would prefer a more secluded spot. Will people hoot and holler? Will they verbalize their displeasure?
While I recognize that like the participants being individuals, clubs are also individual, what can we expect for nudity. Will everyone walk in and immediately take all their clothes off. Does sexual activity begin immediately or does it progress slowly. Does everyone become "publicly" naked. Will a person be rejected if they don't progress in nudity and sexual activity at the same rate as the others? If in my own controlled and being dealt with jealousy or self-consciousness find myself limp as a cooked noodle, will other laugh at me? If my wife does start loosening up, getting comfortable, and obviously having a great time, will a pile of men be all over her like bees flocking to honey? What can we expect generally?
Thank you for your patience.
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