[sportync]

Jennx, there a lot of ways to orally pleasure a woman without placing undue stress on the neck muscles, so practice, practice, practice! You will enjoy it and he will have the opportunity to work on his technique. As for the idea of swinging, often the fantasies are every bit as exciting, perhaps more so, than the real thing. It's easy to fantasize about something, because you control all aspects of the act and all the responses and actions of all the participants...not so in real life. Perhaps this is what brought about his change of heart concerning swinging. At first thought, the idea of having you and another woman was a real turn on, but after considering different scenarios, he realized that the door swings both ways, and some other guy might just want to try out your charms, something he suddenly was not too comfortable with. This could be the reason for his change of thought, and I don't necessarily think it was bait-and-switch, at least not on a concious level. I think that he has had the time to really consider this from different angles and has realized that, sure, he would love to have you and another woman together, but let another dude have a shot at you??? Forget it! And this gets right back to Julie's question on another thread...what is swinging to you? That is the question you two have to answer. Is it an opportunity to fulfill each other's fantasies, or just his? Is it something that you want to freely explore, or set strict limits on? Do you desire the same things he does, or do you have your own fantasies which you would really like to explore? You can learn a lot about each other by talking together about these things, and I think that you two need to do a lot more talking before you commit to a plan of action. And the talking and fantasizing can be a lot of fun, as well as a productive way to get to know each other better.Sportync