RE: Orgasm (or lack thereof).
I'm assuming you know how to get yourself off? Yes? Although I'm almost curious since you said you are unsure if your s/o has ever given you an orgasm. I would think that if it was a yes, you would know it. If it was such a rare occurance you probably would have marked it on the calender. So I'm going with the idea that he never has.
Assuming that you have given yourself one and know what you enjoy. Sounds like the two of you should spend some time exploring YOR body. If he cares about you then he wants you to get off as much as he wants himself to. What good does it do to have sex once or more a day if you aren't getting any release from it? Sure the act itself can be fun, but having the act regularly without the climax can become VERY frustrating as I'm sure you know.
RE: Swinging:
If you went into this with the idea/plan that swinging would eventually be part of your relationship then you have to decide how important that is to you. Is it so important that you are willing to give this guy up over it? if so, then do so, move on and find someone who will enjoy the things you want to enjoy and who is as much your sexual soulmate as your mental soulmate. If he is the most important thing to you tho then put the idea of swinging on the backburner and concentrate on making your relationship with him the best it can be (teach him how to give you those O's). And let him take his time getting around to the idea of swinging. |