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Jennx · 11-10-2002, 07:44 PM

Hi =)
I am in desperate need of some good sound healthy advice. (I already posted this in Introductions yesterday) I am a female in a "knock your sox off, serious str8 relationship" and have some questions about overcoming concerns in our mutual desire to swing, or rather his lack of desire to swing really anymore. He said "hell yes" in the beginning, and is saying "not so sure" now. What!? I was completely honest from the beginning. We have had numerous sit-down talks about it. In the bedroom, out of the bedroom, on the phone, watching T.V., in the car, etc.. should I go on? We've been seeing each other romantically for almost a year (next week is our ann.) We have only talked about it though. We have kind of nudged each other and winked when we have been out and have seen someone interesting, but that's about it. He has said things like, " it takes money to go out and meet someone, wine, dine, room , etc." That's one excuse. Also he's not sure he is as comfortable as he led me on to think at the outset of our relationship. I have decided to forego the possiblity of a MFM scenario and said I would be happy w/ him in a FMF or FFMF deal. He said he couldn't bear the thought of some other guy f****** me. He says he'd be lying if he said the idea of me & another woman (or2) didn't arouse him, but he says he's afraid that yes, I would like it too much. I LOVE HAVING SEX W/ HIM! I tell him all the time. But... there is the little issue of him not bringing me to O either vaginally (which I've never had anyway) or clitorally dur to a broken neck a few years ago. That's kind of a biggy. We are trying not to stress about it. I can achieve one if I do myself. It's hard to explain. **sigh** help

Please no snap judgements, and be careful when giving your good advice. Thank you for your help in advance.

11-10-2002, 07:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
Jennx Registered Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 7 Location: WA Status: couple	He doesn't want to swing now Hi =) I am in desperate need of some good sound healthy advice. (I already posted this in Introductions yesterday) I am a female in a "knock your sox off, serious str8 relationship" and have some questions about overcoming concerns in our mutual desire to swing, or rather his lack of desire to swing really anymore. He said "hell yes" in the beginning, and is saying "not so sure" now. What!? I was completely honest from the beginning. We have had numerous sit-down talks about it. In the bedroom, out of the bedroom, on the phone, watching T.V., in the car, etc.. should I go on? We've been seeing each other romantically for almost a year (next week is our ann.) We have only talked about it though. We have kind of nudged each other and winked when we have been out and have seen someone interesting, but that's about it. He has said things like, " it takes money to go out and meet someone, wine, dine, room , etc." That's one excuse. Also he's not sure he is as comfortable as he led me on to think at the outset of our relationship. I have decided to forego the possiblity of a MFM scenario and said I would be happy w/ him in a FMF or FFMF deal. He said he couldn't bear the thought of some other guy f**** me. He says he'd be lying if he said the idea of me & another woman (or2) didn't arouse him, but he says he's afraid that yes, I would like it too much. I LOVE HAVING SEX W/ HIM! I tell him all the time. But... there is the little issue of him not bringing me to O either vaginally (which I've never had anyway) or clitorally dur to a broken neck a few years ago. That's kind of a biggy. We are trying not to stress about it. I can achieve one if I do myself. It's hard to explain. sigh** help Please no snap judgements, and be careful when giving your good advice. Thank you for your help in advance.