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Originally posted by Rabbyt Quote:
Originally posted by bear_n_bunny
Rabbyt,
Insofar as swinging is concerned, you are obviously aware that caution is indicated in how you bring up the subject to Ms. Rabbyt, especially since you have indicated she's a bit insecure about herself (although from the way you describe her, she sounds like a major babe... 
After reading all the advice I've got so far, I'm not even thinking about swinging with her at the moment. I'm going to spend some time working on how open our communication is and getting us to the point where we can discuss ANYTHING as well as making sure she knows how beautiful she is and how I will always love her. And yes, she is a major babe, I think the biggest problem she (and I) would face at a party would be fighting off everyone trying to hit on her.  |
I think you are taking the right approach here. Swinging can be a lot of fun, but it is certainly not the end-all and be-all of our existence, something some swingers forget, IMNSHO. In the spirit of not putting the cart before the horse, these other issues need to be cleared up long before the two of you consider approaching a lifestyle such as this.
Putting the subject of swinging aside, having the sort of open communication you allude to is imperative for a successful marriage, regardless of what activities you might like to get into at some point. Take the word of someone who has had marriages and relationships crash and burn because of communication problems.
Something else that I would urge you to work on with her is why she seems to think she's not the gorgeous babe you say she is. That ain't normal. I have almost never met an attractive woman who did not know full well she was attractive and did not act accordingly. And those who did not had some personal issues they needed to work on; issues based on something that had happened to them in their pasts. So I would definitely check into this. A lot of things will fall into place after these issues are dealt with.
In any case, it sounds to me like Ms. Rabbyt is lucky to have you, and I wish you both all the best.
Bear