Rabbyt, as ususual, ElusiveBiFem seems to be "right on" with her advice. Similar to what she gave me several months ago. As far not rushing into things and enjoying it along the way, that's almost an exact description of what has happened with me and my wife. We've been married over twenty years and it seems each year gets better. My fantasy about a MFM thing or watching her surfaced pretty early in our marriage when we were sharing our previous sexual experiences with each other. I, too am a few years older than my wife so she had experienced only a few partners, but as she told me about them I became so turned on I couldn't restrain myself. Then, slowly, over the years, I would verbalize my fantasies, especially in the throes of a sexual encounter between us, then we started watching porn videos, read a few "dirty" magazines together, etc. I forgot one thing in my earlier post, we also have had some great phone sex sessions when one of us was out of town on business. One thing I have done several times is pop a video in and key it up to the right "spot" or scene, then call her and when she is comfortable ask her to turn on the VCR and then things really heat up. Its a great opportunity to share those fantasies and masturbate together over the phone. I think she really appreciates the fact that when I'm out of town I'm not out running the bars and chasing women but would rather call her and have sex over the phone with her (such as it is). A huge part of our experience here is learning to trust each other, especially her learning that I am not going to "set her up" or push her into anything. She is even able to joke about my MFM fantasy with such comments as we need to buy three burial plots, one for each of us and one for "Him." Such comments as that lead me to to believe that with the right person in the right situation my ultimate fantasy might happen, but, again, I am not going to set up a surprise or anything like that. In the meantime, we're both having fun and the older we get, it seems the closer we get in every way, including sexually.
ElusiveBiFem, if you read this, I agree with Rabbyt, the word should be "wise" not "old"....especially since I think you and I are about the same age. Thanks again for your wise advice.
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