Rabbyt, first let me say welcome to the board!
Second, I think you're on the right track, using your head and taking it one step at a time. I think you have the right attitude about this; taking it slow, letting things happen as they may and listening to the fine advice you've received here. Work it into your bedroom talk, find some porn to watch that shows some multiple partner sex and wait for the opportunity to ask her about her fantasies. She may surprise you.
If and when she's ready, show her this site. You can count on us to be just a friendly and supportive of her as we are of you. Best wishes to you. Stick around too, we'd love to get to know you better and hear how things are going!
-B
