Rabbyt, I could have made your post. In fact several months ago when I discovered this board I made similar posts asking for similar advice. The advice given to me me was pretty much the same as you are getting...take it slow with your wife. Like yours, my wife loves sex, watches porno videos with me (and she gets really hot when we do ), and uses sex toys in front of me but is very cautious when I mention a MFM menage a' trois or me simply watching her have sex with another man. I don't push it, but I do take the opportunity to bring it up when the timing is right. The MFM thing has been a fantasy of mine for many years and she knows it. Several have suggested that I introduce her to this board, but like you, I am wary of that right now because once done, its too late if she responds in a negative way. I really don't think she would, but I'm still very nervous about it. I really suspect that deep down, if the opportunity ever arose in the right place. at the right time, with the right guy or couple, she would be open to swinging. I keep hoping that someday it might happen. I, like you evidently, am not pursuing this for my pleasure alone, as I am committed to my wife and would not do anything outside our relationship as a couple. I also know that if we ever get into swinging, it would be because I suggested it, not her. I base that on our history of me suggesting we watch porno videos then after she tried it, she liked it, and the same applied with sex toys. We have been married over twenty years and all of this has been a very gradual development to the point we are in now. So, I have no answers for you but can identify with you strongly and maybe we can share thoughts about this subject on this board. Have a nice day!
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