Hi Everyone,
This is my 1st posting so go easy on me.
Looking for e-books on Amazon.com which I like to read before going to sleep I came across a book called "Swinging for Beginners", it was cheap, I was intrigued, so I got it. Well, I had no idea of the impact that book had on me. I've read it three times and been so thirsty for more information on swinging which has eventually led me to your site.
The reason why I'm searching so much for all the info I can get is that I haven't even mentioned the barest hint of swinging to her as I want to make sure I do it as best I can (if I decide to risk it) to give us the maximum chance that she might want to give it a go.
I really don't know what her reaction will be. On the good side, she loves sex, daily if possible, she loves it in different places and loves dirty talk and us verbalising and describing what we are doing to each other. I guess I'm trying to put it together in my
mind.
What I love after some of the information I've read is that it is something we do as a couple. I wouldn't be interested in swinging alone and in fact it is as much a turn on for me imagining her being absolutely pleasured by other men while I'm watching as it is for me imagining myself with another woman. I also love the sense of freedom, of being released from
the emotional worry when sex is totally associated with love and relationship always. I love the talk of how swinging can bring a couple a unique closeness as if they can discuss and see their partners having sex, they can talk about anything. I really believe it would bring us closer.
My worries are that there is some risk in even bringing this subject up as would it colour how she perceived me forever if she was totally turned off by the idea of swinging. I love my wife dearly and my desire to see with other men and for me to experience other women takes nothing away from this love. I want to see her in throes of pleasure and relive
the experiences later as I believe it would improve our own eroticism, sex, communication and desire for each other. If she decided against doing it, I would accept this (despite some
disappointment) but I guess I hope that it wouldn't affect our relationship or worse ruin it just by her knowing that I wanted us to swing with other people. I guess that's the risk I'm worried about and would like to be the best prepared and minimise it if at all possible.
Are there any particular signs, traits, signals that would be more common to women who would be open to swinging that i could look for in my wife to make the BIG decision of whether to broach the subject with her.
I would appreciate any advice anyone can give and would like to thank everyone on this board for the wonderful information already contained in it.
Regards
Rabbyt