Swing0102,
I know exactly where you're coming from. He's excited about watching you with another person and you're not too sure about seeing him with someone else. I'm in the same boat. I know my husband will have no problem watching me with someone else, when it happens. But I'm not sure I'll be able to watch him with someone else. Yes, insecurity is a big part of this. Will he enjoy being with her more than he enjoys being with me? Or will it appear so to me? What if he decides that I'm boring in bed after being with others who are more exciting? What about him being with someone with more experience than I have, who pleases him in a way I can't? See, I understand completely. But after reading this board for a long time, I've realized that these feelings are normal and something to be worked out before anything happens, whether it's with a couple or a single. Everyone here stresses that you move at the speed of the slowest person. So maybe encounters with singles are limited to males for a while. Most men wouldn't have a problem with that. lol And maybe you wait to have an encounter with another woman until you find a couple to play with. I don't think I'd feel as insecure about him playing with someone's wife as much as I would if she were single. That brings up other problems, as was stated before.
You need to talk to your husband, even to the point of talking it to death, and let him know how you feel. That you have concerns about seeing him with another woman. If he truly loves you, he'll understand and be willing to move slowly in that area. He may not be too happy about it, but your feelings are important and need to be taken into account.
Another possibility is for you to choose his first female playmate. That way you can be sure she's not someone you feel threatened by. And your husband can choose your playmates too. Of course, you have the final okay on the person. But this could be a way to aleviate some of the feelings of insecurity. At least until you get used to seeing him with someone else and knowing that he's always coming back to you.
Another thing I've read on this board, is to be sure to reconnect with your husband after every encounter. Make love together. And then talk about what happened with your playmates. What you liked, what you didn't and what made you uncomfortable or not. Communication is key. Actually, it's key whether or not you swing.
Just be sure to take it slow and don't do anything that doesn't feel right.
If things go the way we hope, my husband and I might be having our first swing encounters at the end of the year. Timing and distance are keeping them from happening right now. So, until then, I plan on reading this board regularly to learn as much as I can to make our first times as enjoyable as possible for both of us. This board is a wealth of information. And there are many wonderful people who post here. Keep reading and talking with your husband. And when the time is right, enjoy your new experiences. I know we plan to.
DragonsLair
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