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Originally posted by JandCMI
I think, as a male half of a couple, I agree with your post. Both C and I look at single men in not so positive of a light and, needless to say, want absolutely nothing to do with a MFM including one of them. You hit the nail right on the head in the second paragraph I quoted. I like to paraphrase it like this: "You cant come to our party unless you bring a dish of your own!"

This, however, is not to say we would be completely against the idea if it was with someone we knew and trusted...perhaps the male half of a couple we have known for a while on C's birthday, for example.

You are also right about the double standard thing. We both would enjoy a FMF, even with a relative stranger. I guess I will put this in extremely simple terms...with a FMF we both win, but with a MFM only she wins, and we are in it for both of us

Golly Gee. My feelings are completely different. If either of us are gratified we both win. Your relationship will achieve a much higher plane when you develop the ability to share pleasure. Empathy is a great quality to develop in swinging