I think, as a male half of a couple, I agree with your post. Both C and I look at single men in not so positive of a light and, needless to say, want absolutely nothing to do with a MFM including one of them. You hit the nail right on the head in the second paragraph I quoted. I like to paraphrase it like this: "You cant come to our party unless you bring a dish of your own!"
This, however, is not to say we would be completely against the idea if it was with someone we knew and trusted...perhaps the male half of a couple we have known for a while on C's birthday, for example.
You are also right about the double standard thing. We both would enjoy a FMF, even with a relative stranger. I guess I will put this in extremely simple terms...with a FMF we both win, but with a MFM only she wins, and we are in it for both of us
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Originally posted by Unregistered
I have been reading posts regarding rules, and whether these rules can be construed as double standards, i.e., if the male half of a couple is interested in swapping with another couple or a FMF, but not cool with a MFM.
While some posts have described this as a double standard, others have argued that it's OK, as the male half of the couple is taking a risk with his feelings and only wants to involve other men who are taking the same risk, thereby helping to avoid single men who are just out for free sex (without regard or respect for the man who is making this "free sex" possible). |