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Originally posted by bear_n_bunny
.... As well, unlike females, I get the impression that bisexual men are far less accepted, by not only the community at large, but by swingers as well. ...
... What about the man who is in a happy marriage and starts to have trouble because he can't deal with his bisexuality?...
...Still, no matter how it comes about, it is cheating. I just understand how it can come about.
--Bunny |
As can I.
There is, as you say, no stigma placed on a bisexual woman regarding her femininity. But even within the swingers world, there are some who question the masculinity of a bisexual man.
So it is not difficult to imagine the reluctance a bisexual man might feel to discuss this with his mate. I would think this reluctance would turn to fear if they are pretty straight living folks. If the wife has had limited exposure to those who live their lives with a "free spirited" attitude, his fear would include the absolute belief she lacked the foundation to even begin to deal with his bisexuality. And that as a result, she would be incapable of understanding, much less accepting of it. (And worse, would never view him in the same way ever again)
Then consider how much more difficult it will be to explain to her how she has become infected with an STD.
Those men who seek same sex activity outside their marriages (as opposed to as a part of threesome or foursome shared activity) are fair more likely to become infected with, and share with their spouse, any number of STD's up to and including the "big one".