It is amazing how much I have learned (prior to having to deal with it, in the last couple of months) about personal boundries. I have learned that it would bother me for my husband or myself to 'cuddle' with the opposite partner after sex and I can say that it would bother me to have my husband hold hands with another woman. Now mind you, we can fuck, kiss and suck in every possible scenario and we can put our arms on the shoulders of, or even hook around their waists.... but cuddling (in like a going to sleep type scenario) and holding hands would bring up pangs of jealousy for me.
I see both cuddling and even the holding of hands (as if you were boyfriend/girlfriend) as ones of crossing my personal boundries.
Hey, BTW, welcome to the board! Thanks for bringing this question up!
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