I still simpathize. In the "real world," and not the one on MTV, how many people have the depth and understanding to deal with bisexuality in general, let alone in thier marriage. The posters on this board are already comfortable moving outside the boundaries of traditional relationships. Therefore I think that the concept of being honesty about ones sexuality is less frightening.
I know I over heard a woman at work talking about her friend who found out her husband had a membership to alternateconnections.com, a mainly homosexual/bisexual meeting service if I understand correctly. The tone of that discussion among co-workers assured me that I best not jump in with my opinions. As well, unlike females, I get the impression that bisexual men are far less accepted, by not only the community at large, but by swingers as well.
I feel for the man who suddenly realizes his occasional fantazies about being with another man means he is bisexual. I know my fantasies, though mainly hetrosexual, lead me to swinging. The longer I denied them, the more urgent it got for me to do something about them. What about the man who is in a happy marriage and starts to have trouble because he can't deal with his bisexuality? Anyway, I just watched Far From Heaven so maybe I'm bit too touchy feeling on the subject.
Still, no matter how it comes about, it is cheating. I just understand how it can come about.
--Bunny
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