The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Swinging vs Monogamy, are they not equal choices?

AnonDude · 07-03-2003, 08:59 AM

The intention of this post was not to decide the age old question of one spouse wants to swing the other doesn't. I did touch on that but the "musings" in my post were more on the equality given to each lifestyle choice and the effects of societal norms but...

...since I did mention the situation between my wife and I all is fair game I suppose. That being the case there is another piece to the story:

I (the male half) have no interest in other women or men. I can assure all of you that I have no interest in getting involved in this lifestyle with my wife for the sole reason of "getting more pussy".

I can assure all of you about that because I would (and effectively have) turned down that very scenario. If she wants another woman it is for her - I have no interest in touching anyone but my wife.

My fascination comes from watching my wife in the throws of passion or riding a sexual wave of abandonment. I nearly fall apart from the beauty of it. I suppose that makes me wierd, so be it.

I feel there is an experience, a beautiful one, available in that scenario that is, honestly, tainted by being involved in the machinations of sex yourself.

I am sure there is a beauty to the "full swap" scenario or the FFM scenario as well and I would imagine everyone has their preferences. Mine is quite simply to see my wife pleased and/or excited - that is the ONLY swinging pleasure that interests me.

07-03-2003, 08:59 AM	#15 (permalink)
AnonDude Active Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 10 Location: North Carolina	One more piece of data... The intention of this post was not to decide the age old question of one spouse wants to swing the other doesn't. I did touch on that but the "musings" in my post were more on the equality given to each lifestyle choice and the effects of societal norms but... ...since I did mention the situation between my wife and I all is fair game I suppose. That being the case there is another piece to the story: I (the male half) have no interest in other women or men. I can assure all of you that I have no interest in getting involved in this lifestyle with my wife for the sole reason of "getting more pussy". I can assure all of you about that because I would (and effectively have) turned down that very scenario. If she wants another woman it is for her - I have no interest in touching anyone but my wife. My fascination comes from watching my wife in the throws of passion or riding a sexual wave of abandonment. I nearly fall apart from the beauty of it. I suppose that makes me wierd, so be it. I feel there is an experience, a beautiful one, available in that scenario that is, honestly, tainted by being involved in the machinations of sex yourself. I am sure there is a beauty to the "full swap" scenario or the FFM scenario as well and I would imagine everyone has their preferences. Mine is quite simply to see my wife pleased and/or excited - that is the ONLY swinging pleasure that interests me.